The Strange Time After The Examination 

The Strange Time After The Board Exams

Board exams are in the air.
In some schools they have just ended.
In others, they are ongoing.
In some, they are about to begin.

The TV volume at home is lower than usual.
The lights stay on a little longer at night.

Mother says — “Revise once more.”
Father says — “Don’t panic. Write whatever you can.”

The exam is happening.

But the real exam has not started yet.

The real question is different.

“What next?”

Ashutosh Babu’s Calculation

He brought his daughter back after the exam.
He is sitting quietly.

He believes the marks will be decent.

But will she manage if she takes Science?
Is Class Eleven very difficult?
Are Physics, Chemistry, Mathematics on another level?
Is Biology too vast?

He knows —
Class IX–X and XI–XII are not the same.

Another calculation begins in his mind —

Will coaching be necessary?
How much will it cost?
How much time will it take?
What will be her mental pressure like?

Eva Devi’s Dilemma

Her son has loved computers since childhood.
He watches coding videos.

Friends are saying — “Take Computer Science, the future is there.”

But Eva Devi is thinking —

Is school-level Computer Science the same as professional skill?
If he takes Biology, is there nothing beyond becoming a doctor?
If he takes Computer Science, must he become an engineer?
Can he truly differentiate between his own interest and trend?

Dr. Surya Sen’s Silent Pressure

He is a doctor.
Many have already assumed — his son will become a doctor too.

But the school is asking in advance —
Which stream in Class Eleven?

In many ICSE structures, stream selection must be done before the board exam ends.
If changing schools, admission must be taken early.

The exam is not over.
Yet the decision must be made?

He wonders —

What does his son truly want?
Does he genuinely want this path?
Or is social continuity pushing him?

Sharbori Devi’s Board Dilemma

She studied in the WB Board.
Her son is now in ICSE.

Now the question —

Will she keep him in ISC?
Shift to CBSE?
Or bring him back to WB Board?

Will changing boards increase pressure?
Or reduce it?

Is NCERT alignment important?
Will writing standards differ by board?
Which board is more beneficial for future competitive exams?

These questions are not only academic.

They are strategic.

Bapi Babu’s Reality

His daughter is weak in Mathematics.

If she takes Commerce, will she manage?
If she takes Arts, will her future become limited?
If she takes Science and falls behind?

Along with that comes financial concern —

Coaching expenses.
Books.
Time.

He knows —

If the decision is wrong, it is not only subjects that change.
Confidence changes too.

Inside The Students’ Minds

Shubhonkor thinks —
“Everyone is taking Science.”
“If I don’t, am I less capable?”
“Will I be able to manage?”

Sumitra thinks —
“I don’t like Biology.”
“I’m not good at Mathematics either.”
“Where do I stand?”

Mishti thinks —
“I will become a doctor.”
But she does not know how long that path really is.

Rahul thinks —
“I don’t know what I want to become.”
“Is it even possible to know at this age?”

Kartik thinks —
“If someone clearly explained which path is logical in today’s world.”

Another Pressure — Deciding Before Time

In many boards, especially ICSE/ISC structures,
Stream selection must be done before board results.

If changing schools, admission must be taken early.

The exam is not finished.
The result has not come.
Yet a decision is required.

This makes many parents more restless.

“Decision without knowing the marks?”
“Should we change the board?”
“If we change schools, will the child adjust?”
“Will CBSE make competitive preparation easier?”
“Does ISC provide deeper conceptual understanding?”
“Will WB Board provide scoring stability?”

All these questions arrive together.

Social Reality

• Comparison with relatives
• Comments like “They took Science”
• “This is better for girls” type assumptions
• Political uncertainty
• Job market pressure
• Social instability

All of this makes the decision heavier.

When The Fear Is Not About Marks, But Failure

Many parents do not say it aloud, but they think —

“What if Science becomes overwhelming?”
“What if the first term in Class Eleven goes badly?”
“What if confidence breaks?”

Scoring well in Class IX–X and
Managing sustained pressure in XI–XII are not the same.

Many quietly think —

“What if we choose a safer path now?”
“Something with less pressure?”

Because many parents have seen —
A wrong stream has broken many students’ confidence.

They fear their child’s broken confidence
More than low marks.

“What Will People Say?” — The Invisible Pressure

No one openly admits it.
But it exists.

“Their son took Science.”
“What did your daughter take?”
“Commerce? Oh…”

These are not direct insults.
But they create comparison.

Even today, taking Science often means “good student.”

Parents wonder —

Are we deciding according to ability?
Or according to social standards?

Different Expectations For Sons And Daughters

In some families, invisible differences still exist.

For sons —
“The career must be strong.”

For daughters —
“Pressure should not be too much.”

No one says it aloud.
But the thought remains in many places.

English Medium vs Bengali Medium Confidence

Many WB Board students think —

“Competitive exams are in English.”
“Will I fall behind?”

Many English medium students think —

“Do I have enough conceptual depth?”

Board is not only syllabus.
It is also a question of confidence.

Changing Board Means More Than Changing Syllabus

ICSE to CBSE?
CBSE to ISC?
ISC to WB?

If the board changes —

• The syllabus changes
• The evaluation style changes
• The friend circle changes
• The school environment changes

Parents think —

“Will the child adjust?”
“Will confidence drop in a new environment?”

And since in many boards, especially ICSE structures,
Stream must be declared before the board exam ends —

The time to decide becomes shorter.
And that urgency increases anxiety.

The Strange Inner Conflict Of Students

Shubhonkor thinks —
“If I don’t take Science, everyone will think I failed.”

Sumitra thinks —
“Am I just looking for the easier option?”

Kartik thinks —
“I am still not sure.
Is it even possible to be sure at this age?”

Mishti thinks —
“I will become a doctor.”

But when she hears — NEET, competition, coaching, pressure —
She becomes a little quiet.

Another Silent Question

Many families have financial limitations.

Science often means additional expenses.
Coaching.
Books.
Time.

Parents think —

“What if I take pressure beyond my capacity?”
“What if midway my child says this is not for them?”

Then the decision becomes not only academic,
But economic.

The Question Of Identity

At this age, a big question exists —

“Who am I?”

Am I brilliant?
Am I average?
Will I fail?

Stream becomes attached to identity.

Science — “good student”
Arts — “creative”
Commerce — “practical”

But are human beings really so simple to categorize?

When Desire And Responsibility Do Not Align

Sometimes the student wants something
The parents do not want.

Sometimes the parents want something
The student is not ready for.

This is natural.

What Students Want

A student may say —
“I will take Computer Science.”

But why?
Because friends are taking it?
Or because they truly love coding?

Someone may say —
“I will become a doctor.”

But is it from deep aspiration?
Or because it is the most socially recognized profession?

Someone may say —
“I will take Arts, less pressure.”

But is it genuine interest?
Or escape from difficulty?

At this age, desire exists.
But it is not always deeply analysed.

What Parents Want

Parents think —

“If Science is taken, the future remains open.”
“Commerce provides stability.”
“Arts has less competition.”

Many do not say it aloud,
But think —

“Let my child achieve what I could not.”

There is love here.
There is dream.

But sometimes that dream does not fully align with the child’s actual capability.

Where Does The Problem Begin?

The problem begins —

When a student’s desire is unrealistic
And the parent does not question it.

Or

When parental pressure becomes so strong
That the student becomes afraid to speak.

Both are harmful.

Decision based only on student desire
Can create long-term problems.

Decision based only on parental pressure
Can break confidence.

Then What Is Needed?

Not victory of one side.
Not defeat of the other.

What is needed —

Rational discussion.

The student’s desire must be heard.
The parent’s concern must also be acknowledged.

Then we must ask —

Does this desire align with reality?
Will this decision sustain for the next five years?
Does this path match capability, interest, and circumstance?

Decision Is Not Ego. It Is Balance.

At this age, no one is fully certain.
Not parents.
Not students.

A one-sided decision breaks balance.

Both voices matter.
But under the light of logic.

Let Us Pause

Everything discussed so far —
This is not one family’s story.

This is the reality of most families.

At this point, what is the biggest mistake possible?

Making a rushed decision.
Or making a decision out of fear.

Before deciding anything, let’s understand the structure.